Goodbye Papaw

cassidyta · 03-29-09, 08:10 AM

I got the call this morning that Papaw had lost the fight to cancer. In many ways he had been more of a dad than a grandfather. I lived with my grandparents from the time I was 5 until I left for the Marines.

When I have talked about fishing and my "Dad" on here, it was always a reference to him. He is the one who taught me hunt, to fish, and to respect every living thing. I tried to explain the concept of respecting somthing you hunt ot my son the other day. My Papaw taught me that respecting a deer meant a clean shot that would not cause it to suffer. If you did not have a shot that would drop it, then you were not meant to shoot it.

He taught me Yes Sir, and Yes Ma'am. (And yes had belt to remind me should I forget)

At 16 I had grown taller than him and ONE time felt that I could take him. I remember him saying to me, "Son, I bet you think you are too big for me to turn you over my knee." Like a dumbass, I answered "yes I do" and puffed out my chest. That was when he said, "Then you are ready for this." I never saw the right hand, I was too focused on the cane he let drop to the ground. But by God, I felt it. I can never hear the Garth Brooks song "The night I called the old man out" without rubbing my chin and making a face that is somewhat a smile and a frown.

I know I am rambling now, but needed to at least type out the words.
"Goodbye Papaw, I love you"

bcklash · 03-29-09, 08:26 AM

Sorry to hear about your loss Cass, we'll be praying for you and your family.

MallenManson · 03-29-09, 08:28 AM

Sorry for your loss Cassidy. Sounds like he was a great man

cassidyta · 03-29-09, 08:44 AM

Actually Mallen, he was a mean SOB. Born in the depression, fought in 3 wars, drank everyday but Sunday. But, he taught me the fundamentals of what it took to be a man.

MallenManson · 03-29-09, 09:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cassidyta

Actually Mallen, he was a mean SOB. Born in the depression, fought in 3 wars, drank everyday but Sunday. But, he taught me the fundamentals of what it took to be a man.

Sometimes the mean ones are the best in a lot of other ways.
My grandfather kept a stick above the doorway seperating the kitchen and dining room, and he knew how to use it. I still miss him

Jim80 · 03-29-09, 09:19 AM

sorry to hear cass our prayers will be with you .

jim

abu4600 · 03-29-09, 10:19 AM

Sorry for your loss. Ya'll are in our prayers.

bamabassman · 03-29-09, 10:28 AM

so very sorry cass. he raised ya right i think pal. i know you are proud to call him dad. you should be. mean or not, he loves you man. our prayers are with you my friend.

flbassman · 03-29-09, 01:40 PM

Sorry to hear that man. That generation is fading out fast, it's a shame.

Joel · 03-29-09, 02:26 PM

It's always tough to loose a loved one. Those that raised us, often had to find a balance between a heavy hand and a big heart. From the sounds of it, your Grand Dad did that, and you're the man you are because of him. May he rest in peace.

66KingFisher · 03-29-09, 06:35 PM

Sounds like you had a good relationship with him.....and he taught you well....thats alot more than some can say in this day and time.....Sorry for your loss.

keithdog · 03-29-09, 07:45 PM

Sorry to hear about your loss Cass. This world needs more fathers like yhour papa. Stern, but loving. Your in our prayers.

carolina-rig-01 · 03-29-09, 10:45 PM

that's really tough cass, i am very sorry to hear it. we will be praying for all of you and if you need anything please don't hesitate to holler.

again, i am very sorry buddy

MississippiBoy · 03-29-09, 11:03 PM

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, Cass. You and your family will be in our prayers.

Bubba_Bruiser · 03-30-09, 01:19 AM

Sorry about your loss Cass. It seems to be raining around here on the glum end of the stick. My mom, who I lost last Tuesday, was in the army (& wore combat boots), adopted by one if the meanest women in south MS and she could be one mean cuss herself, but like you said, she pretty much raised me with the fundamentals and morales to be the man I am today. And I knew she loved me!

1/4 stick · 03-30-09, 01:45 AM

Sorry to hear that cass.

Bassboss · 03-30-09, 07:55 AM

Sorry cass! That must really suck man!

doc · 03-30-09, 11:23 AM

Isn't it funny how the "firm" (notice I didn't say mean) grandparents, parents are the ones we miss/respect the most.

To an old timer being firm and a good man go hand in hand.

sorry for your loss cass.

tnfisherman · 03-30-09, 11:35 AM

sorry bout your loss

garry_3000 · 03-30-09, 12:47 PM

Sorry to hear that.

woody · 03-30-09, 02:12 PM

Cass...
Please accept my condolences for your GrandDad.
In a way He reminds me of the Patriarchs that I had in my life: -old school-
I would love to hear more about your GrandDad, if that's alright with you.

Thank You in advance.

~Mark

BassBandit · 03-30-09, 03:11 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Sound like he was a good man. Thoughts and prayers sent your way.

Lilmoosecountry · 03-30-09, 03:33 PM

Cass sorry to here that. I was raised by my grandparents. So i know how it feels. Grandpa introduced me to river fishing. That's the only fishing the oldman would do. Funny how you become the way your raised. One day when the rapture occurs will be home with the lord and our family. So this earthly thing is only temporary. I can't wait because Grandpa owes me a trip fishing when i see him. My regards go out to you & your family. Just realize he is not truly dead. He is now on the otherside waiting for you to bring that pole with yeahh!!!

crankybait · 03-30-09, 03:49 PM

Sorry for your loss, cass.

cassidyta · 03-30-09, 05:12 PM

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.
Woody, I will later post a story my grandfather told me about a chance encounter with Joe Louis. One where my grandfather used an inappropriate word to describe a man of Joe's skin tone and the lesson he learned from it.

03-29-09, 08:10 AM	#1
cassidyta BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 2,928	Goodbye Papaw I got the call this morning that Papaw had lost the fight to cancer. In many ways he had been more of a dad than a grandfather. I lived with my grandparents from the time I was 5 until I left for the Marines. When I have talked about fishing and my "Dad" on here, it was always a reference to him. He is the one who taught me hunt, to fish, and to respect every living thing. I tried to explain the concept of respecting somthing you hunt ot my son the other day. My Papaw taught me that respecting a deer meant a clean shot that would not cause it to suffer. If you did not have a shot that would drop it, then you were not meant to shoot it. He taught me Yes Sir, and Yes Ma'am. (And yes had belt to remind me should I forget) At 16 I had grown taller than him and ONE time felt that I could take him. I remember him saying to me, "Son, I bet you think you are too big for me to turn you over my knee." Like a dumbass, I answered "yes I do" and puffed out my chest. That was when he said, "Then you are ready for this." I never saw the right hand, I was too focused on the cane he let drop to the ground. But by God, I felt it. I can never hear the Garth Brooks song "The night I called the old man out" without rubbing my chin and making a face that is somewhat a smile and a frown. I know I am rambling now, but needed to at least type out the words. "Goodbye Papaw, I love you" __________________ If you have ever wondered if you should retie, the answer is yes.

03-29-09, 08:26 AM	#2
bcklash BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Elliston, Va. Posts: 4,372	Sorry to hear about your loss Cass, we'll be praying for you and your family. __________________ The soap box, the ballot box, the jury box, and the cartridge box. keep us free:

03-29-09, 08:28 AM	#3
MallenManson BassFishin.Com Premier Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Beulah, Michigan Posts: 6,431	Sorry for your loss Cassidy. Sounds like he was a great man __________________ Bass fear me. Women pepperspray me.....

03-29-09, 08:44 AM	#4
cassidyta BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 2,928	Actually Mallen, he was a mean SOB. Born in the depression, fought in 3 wars, drank everyday but Sunday. But, he taught me the fundamentals of what it took to be a man. __________________ If you have ever wondered if you should retie, the answer is yes.

03-29-09, 09:19 AM	#6
Jim80 BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Thomaston CT Posts: 3,862	sorry to hear cass our prayers will be with you . jim __________________ In memory of Zooker 1/11/73-7/2/2010. You will be sorely missed and never forgotten.

03-29-09, 10:19 AM	#7
abu4600 BassFishin.Com Active Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Brandon Mississippi Posts: 480	Sorry for your loss. Ya'll are in our prayers.

03-29-09, 10:28 AM	#8
bamabassman BassFishin.Com Premier Elite Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: cedar bluff, alabama Posts: 15,292	so very sorry cass. he raised ya right i think pal. i know you are proud to call him dad. you should be. mean or not, he loves you man. our prayers are with you my friend. __________________ so many lures, so little time.

03-29-09, 01:40 PM	#9
flbassman BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Jacksonville Florida Posts: 2,840	Sorry to hear that man. That generation is fading out fast, it's a shame. __________________ R.I.P. Zooker

03-29-09, 02:26 PM	#10
Joel BassFishin.Com Veteran Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Suffolk County, NY Posts: 542	It's always tough to loose a loved one. Those that raised us, often had to find a balance between a heavy hand and a big heart. From the sounds of it, your Grand Dad did that, and you're the man you are because of him. May he rest in peace. __________________ Joel 1st you have to find 'em

03-29-09, 06:35 PM	#11
66KingFisher BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Mena,Arkansas Posts: 1,327	Sounds like you had a good relationship with him.....and he taught you well....thats alot more than some can say in this day and time.....Sorry for your loss.

03-29-09, 07:45 PM	#12
keithdog BassFishin.Com Premier Elite Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: IN Posts: 8,308	Sorry to hear about your loss Cass. This world needs more fathers like yhour papa. Stern, but loving. Your in our prayers.

03-29-09, 10:45 PM	#13
carolina-rig-01 BassFishin.Com Premier Elite Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Webb City, MO Posts: 6,387	that's really tough cass, i am very sorry to hear it. we will be praying for all of you and if you need anything please don't hesitate to holler. again, i am very sorry buddy __________________ You only live once. But if you do it right, once is enough.

03-29-09, 11:03 PM	#14
MississippiBoy BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: May 2007 Location: Ridgeland MS Posts: 3,923	I'm sorry to hear of your loss, Cass. You and your family will be in our prayers. __________________ I smell smoke, and I hear sirens. Do you think that's a problem?

03-30-09, 01:19 AM	#15
Bubba_Bruiser BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: South MS Posts: 3,659	Sorry about your loss Cass. It seems to be raining around here on the glum end of the stick. My mom, who I lost last Tuesday, was in the army (& wore combat boots), adopted by one if the meanest women in south MS and she could be one mean cuss herself, but like you said, she pretty much raised me with the fundamentals and morales to be the man I am today. And I knew she loved me! __________________ \,,,,/ ROCK ON! HRN4L!

03-30-09, 01:45 AM	#16
1/4 stick BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Fayetteville, N.C. Posts: 3,529	Sorry to hear that cass. __________________ Just a redneck having fun. https://www.youtube.com/user/donaldvlogsify

03-30-09, 07:55 AM	#17
Bassboss BassFishin.Com Premier Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Shawano, WI Posts: 7,761	Sorry cass! That must really suck man! __________________ If you can't fix it with heavy squats or fish oil, you're probably going to die.

03-30-09, 11:23 AM	#18
doc BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,134	Isn't it funny how the "firm" (notice I didn't say mean) grandparents, parents are the ones we miss/respect the most. To an old timer being firm and a good man go hand in hand. sorry for your loss cass.

03-30-09, 11:35 AM	#19
tnfisherman BassFishin.Com Active Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: east tn Posts: 370	sorry bout your loss

03-30-09, 12:47 PM	#20
garry_3000 BassFishin.Com Active Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: indianapolis, in Posts: 267	Sorry to hear that. __________________ BETWEEN THE BAITMONKEY AND MY WIFE I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO SAVE MONEY OH WELL

03-30-09, 02:12 PM	#21
woody BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Jonesville, Indiana Posts: 3,597	Cass... Please accept my condolences for your GrandDad. In a way He reminds me of the Patriarchs that I had in my life: -old school- I would love to hear more about your GrandDad, if that's alright with you. Thank You in advance. ~Mark

03-30-09, 03:11 PM	#22
BassBandit BassFishin.Com Active Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Kernersville, NC Posts: 430	I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Sound like he was a good man. Thoughts and prayers sent your way.

03-30-09, 03:33 PM	#23
Lilmoosecountry BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Missouri Posts: 1,322	Cass sorry to here that. I was raised by my grandparents. So i know how it feels. Grandpa introduced me to river fishing. That's the only fishing the oldman would do. Funny how you become the way your raised. One day when the rapture occurs will be home with the lord and our family. So this earthly thing is only temporary. I can't wait because Grandpa owes me a trip fishing when i see him. My regards go out to you & your family. Just realize he is not truly dead. He is now on the otherside waiting for you to bring that pole with yeahh!!! __________________ Live everyday as if it was your last & check your ego at the door!!! God is watching.

03-30-09, 03:49 PM	#24
crankybait BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: marlboro, nj Posts: 3,250	Sorry for your loss, cass. __________________ www.fishinfanatics.com

03-30-09, 05:12 PM	#25
cassidyta BassFishin.Com Super Veteran Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 2,928	Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. Woody, I will later post a story my grandfather told me about a chance encounter with Joe Louis. One where my grandfather used an inappropriate word to describe a man of Joe's skin tone and the lesson he learned from it. __________________ If you have ever wondered if you should retie, the answer is yes.

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