The seventh year

[MO_CPA]

Completely unrelated to fishing...but wanted to throw something out there and see if anyone else has experienced this.

My good buddy and I were both married to our wives seven years ago this June. Relationships have been absolutely great except this last year they have fallen on hard times. He is in alot worse shape then me...but it just seems like things have been directed around getting through today and planning on how to get through tomorrow...with as little contact with each other as possible

I heard that the seventh year is make or break. Anyone else have a comment on this?

[kennethdaysale]

There is some anecdotal evidence that indicates extramarital affairs and divorce filings spike around 7 years. There is also equal evidence that at around 7 years marriages evolve from predominately romance into more of a lifelong friendship....it's this transition that can be hard to make.

[carolina-rig-01]

My wife and I will be celebrating our 8th anniversary this August (either the 7th or the 8th, I can't remember which and that isn't the point LOL). Just like age is another number, so is years of marriage. Britney and I communicate more than any other couple I know. We talk about everything and we know that no matter how tought things are, the other person is always there for support. I know it sounds corny but that is how our marriage works and honestly there isn't a single thing that we don't talk about. My grandpa told both of us two things when we got engaged and he was spot on with both of them. 1. He said "You guys think you are in love now but you don't even know what love is. Over the years as you go through good times and bad times together you will fall in love and look back and realize that you didn't even know what love was right now". 2. He said that "nothing will cause more fights or problems in a relationship than money, if you allow it". We have never been all that well off but we have always been fortunate enough to find a certain amount of comfort in what we were able to do with money. And during those times when things got really tight our ability to talk about it was what always helped us make things work out for the best. I wish I had a dollar for every fight that we have seen couples have that could have been avoided if they simply communicated better. My advise is no matter what the situation or how tough the conversation make sure that you guys talk about everything with one another, I honestly believe it's the best thing for a relationship.

[lilmule]

For good for bad for better or worse-I do
AS a cpa you should know by now not all things add up,and some things are hidden,sometimes they shouldnt be
The first rule all things hers are hers,the second rule all things yours are also hers
When in doubt third rule consult rule number two
Once you understand this all will be ok
Yes I get in the dog house at times,yes when my wife cant add and messes up the bank acct I get mad,but when the chips are down she is all that matters.
Behind every great man there is a woman making many of his decisions.
I sorta chased her till she caught me.Sometimes its funny sometimes not-for better or worse.

[bcklash]

We had some problems around our 12th year, but we made it through it and soon it will be 38 years.
Kory, your grandpa was spot on. The only thing I can add is Debi is my best friend and I'm sure Britney is yours.

MO, 1 day at a time you can make it work.

[MO_CPA]

Thanks for the opinions guys. Kennethdaysale, what you are saying about lifelong friendship...that makes a lot of sense to me. I don't think we have treated eachother like bestfriends for a long time. Got a lot of thinking to do on this and hopefully get some things put in motion. I really do appreciate it.